Two things that grief brings you: Kleenex and hotdish. Two other things? Anger and people telling you what you should or shouldn't do.

Grandma Ruth (rest in peace) once gave our producer Hans a piece of wisdom that has since become a core belief of Team TTFA: "Don’t you let anyone should on you. And don’t you should on anyone else."

In this episode: grandmotherly wisdom, stories about anger, and a whole lot of shoulding on ourselves.

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